Carpe diem sounds so easy when you have a lifetime ahead of you. It must feel bitter or maybe pointless when you know how many days you have left to live.
What is the point of waking up and working in the garden? I might not be here next spring to enjoy the blooms.
How can I enjoy the chat about next summer’s vacation? I might not be there to see it.
Why should I share and feel for my grand-daughter? I won’t see her grow up anyway.
It is hard not to judge or be hurt by those thoughts when you are on the receiving end. They cut through me like the sharpest blade. Yet I understand.
I can only barely imagine the emotional pain of knowing, and not really being sure, not wanting to accept or to give up without a good fight, that your life is likely to end very soon.
Life becomes a roller coaster of good and bad days, of pain and relief, of bitter and sweet, of hurting and being hurt, of anger and despair.
How can I help? You cannot.
Guillotine statement that cuts the tie between the ones who live and the ones who don’t.
Don’t ask. Just be there. Give. Take. Enjoy every happy moment, ignore the rest.
— Inspired by life and “On Death and Dying” by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
I just finished a coaching call. One hour of fun, challenge, listening, giving, asking, engaging, contemplating, receiving… I received so much energy I am now bubbly talking to anyone willing to listen. I think I am addicted to coaching.
Focusing on someone else’s objective or issues for 30, 45, 60 min and fully dedicating my energy to creating a safe yet challenging listening zone is exhilarating. Seeing a coachee leverage this environment and take their reflection to the next level is incredibly satisfying.
Having had a drastic reduction in the coaching hours I can give, I appreciate the few opportunities even more. I focus my energy and at the same time I am more aware of what is happening.
Less is more. Literally.
How do you stay truly engaged in your coaching practice? How do you manage the routine risk? What other pitfalls have you identified?
In my sunday night read I just came across this quote:
‘To succeed now, we have to continually refresh our stocks of knowledge by participating in relevant “flows” of knowledge – interactions that create knowledge or transfer it across individuals. These flows occurr in any social, fluid environment that allows forms and individuals to get better and faster by working with others.’
Hagel, Seely Brown and Davison (2010).
What flows of knowledge are you part of? Are you consciously becoming a member of such flows? How does it happen?
I wake up this morning, full of cheer. Second day of this summer’s karate camp. Eat breakfast, chat with my friends, go back to my room. Wham! Boum! Whack!
Attack in Nice, right after the firework celebrating our national day. Some crazy fou-furieux drove into the people with a truck. A truck!!! He drove into men, women, children, peacefully assembled to look in awe at a beautiful pyrotechnical masterpiece, the traditional firework on the bay.
I am stunned
My heart is filled
With anger and grief
I want to cry
My hands are trembling
My legs keep shaking
The panic is brief
I need to cry
I want to hit and kick and bite
In my head it feels so tight
Only pressure, no relief
My tears are dry
That’s how far I came today. And as I look for peace and love and sense in all this chaos, I wish all of them, all of you, all of us will find the inner strength and drive to move forward and build a better world, a safer world for us all.
I believe in humanity, stronger than ever.
Am I in denial? or am I visionary? I am leaving my first ever employer, after 17 fantastic years…and I don’t feel sad.
I am touched by the signs of kindness, gratitude, and awe. I am worried by the pain, despair and fear I see . I am puzzled by the silence, discomfort, and restlessness. Yet I am not sad.
There I learned to speak the business language, I learned to walk the business walk, I learned to waltz the business waltz. From A to Z. Trying, falling, standing up, trying again.
There I met friends of heart, friends of late hours and friends of “getting things done”. We laughed, we cringed, we pulled our hair and sang “we made it”.
Although I know I will miss much of it, I am not sad.
I am thankful.
My heart is filled with gratitude for the wonderful moments that paved the way to this day. And that gratitude is what gives me the drive to navigate to new horizons….
Look! It is right over there, look how beautiful it is….
I am sitting here in this workshop, struggling with attention, motivation…why am I here in the first place? I remember preparing for this opportunity, being really excited about my focus for this workshop. 4 hours in, I clearly forgot what my intention was, or am I slowly realizing that my objective wasn’t the right one?
Does this ring a bell? Have you ever been caught in this situation?
I am discovering a new way of looking at a possible outcome. The journey is as important as the destination. Participating is what matters. Explore before you focus. That’s it, explore, be curious, let the brainstorm come to you… The moment I realized exploration was going to be the name of my game this week, my energy started to creep up, ramp up, shoot up.
There is a pattern here. When I am faced with uncertainty of any kind, my knee-jerk reaction is to look for a specific sharp objective and focus more…and eventually fail because I don’t know what to look for. This time I noticed my initial reaction. And I knew I needed to do something different, but what? And how? I wrestled with my own discomfort for another few hours. The day came to a close, we all headed to the metro station with the promise of a pleasant dinner.
Bingo! Eureka! Let go. Let go? Yes, let go!
Forget about focus, go broad. Stop searching, start observing. Contemplate, listen, follow your interest and your curiosity without limiting yourself about whether it has a clear immediate use. I am now 3 hours into the second day, having fun, listening, tuning into what people say and show. I am fully engaged. I don’t know what I will get in the end but I know it will be good. I let go and want to be curious, and it feels good.
How often do you let go and allow yourself to be curious?
I bid you welcome to this blog. It bears a name that might not mean so much to you yet. It does mean a lot to me and my intention is to bring clarity over the next few posts into what it is all about. To get started let me list a few words as thought triggers: personal growth, impulses, insights, navigate, explore, reflect.
That’s it for now. More coming soon.
Explore, connect, grow!